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{relationship} My male friend!

There are so much argument over the topic of if boy and girl could be just friend. I’m always positive, maybe due to my boyish personality?! I find it’s easier for me to friend with boy.

I met a boy last year in a German class, and just got closer 3 months later when we talked about football- we support the same team and then now we almost chat via Whatsapp everyday. I feel amazed and I honestly told him that he is my good friend because something only he knows (not even my girl besties)!

We hanged out for watching football match together, drinking beer and talking some personal trouble on work. We always share dog pics via Instagram, talk about the PS4 and Nintendo Switch, and now back to German course again after a 3-month break.

The below pic is the my text (talking about Adidas sneakers) shown on his newly bought Garmin watch.


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Of course, for a girl who has a boyfriend and even proceeding a long distance relationship, you have to be determined and know exactly what you are doing. There should have no flirting in between. A rational person should be able to differentiate how friend and boyfriend should treat.

And of course, having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean you can’t have an opposite-sex friend! Getting to know different people could definitely widen horizon and knowledge scope, because we have limited time to expore one by one by ourselves.
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{relationship} Festival poison

Happy 2018!! Did you guys have an amazing night with loved one to celebrate at New Year’s Eve? Me nope! The day before he said he might have a video chat with me but turned out nope. Sigh, I were too mad and almost couldn’t sleep well- I heard there were people talked loudly and the firework, but I were so mad and want to ignore all and then date with sleeping god.

And then the next day I told him I won’t celebrate any special dates with him anymore- no expectation, no disappointment. 

Ah suddenly I think of what people usually say- everyday can be the Valentine’s Day. Yes maybe it’s a way to make our relationship to be easier, when you know a happy life is not easy to have, unless you don’t too focus or emphasize the importance of thing.

Here’s the pic he sent me- I requested a letter to me as my X’mas present, and I were mad again when I just saw these few words on a A4 paper… He, as a Gemini, tried to say some tricky theory (More letters means much love) and want me to be convinced. Humph not that easy! I’m not that stupid to make you fool me around lol


Although everyday could be X’mas or Valentine’s Day, I still hope we could be together to enjoy the day, and the festive atmosphere 🙂
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{self} Achieved in 2017

It’s December now, and it’s time for reviewing what we have done in these 11 months!

  1. Passed in German exam A1 level.
  2. Changed the old job which I have been worked for 4 years there.
  3. Travelled 4 times, which 3 times are Manila, another one is Singapore.
  4. Celebrated 1-year with bf. Wow time flies!
  5. Booked the flights to travel to Sydney and Perth next August, with 2 of my 15-year friends, ’cause surprisingly it will be out 1st time to travel together, 3 of us.


I think my 2017 is quite fruitful, at least not wasting much time on mobile I guess haha! Time to think about what’s my target for 2018…

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{relationship} About wedding, boys might not know…

Every girl must imagine her own dream wedding. Dream doesn’t mean to be grand, but that wedding must suit own personality and unique.
About the banquet… I am quite a low key person, I don’t want to hold a banquet in hotel ballroom or Chinese restaurant that is typical in HK. Instead, a lunch gathering or cocktail party is so ME! This is a budget wise way so we could spend more on honeymoon trip, which is a much private way to celebrate. Of course, maybe both families would like to have a bigger banquet due to the matter of face… But at least you know not all girls would like to have a grand one, and even want to finish afternoon and take honeymoon flight at that night!

About the dress… I start to search the chic dress in spare time, just to look for which style fits me and to shorten the trouble when I will REALLY prepare wedding. Alice + Olivia, Needle & Thread, Self Portrait… If holding a cocktail party, short dress is quite a good idea haha Not clumsy though. So you know not all girls are looking for a classy white lace wedding dress, and when you know girls are starting to look for a dress which they don’t even wear skirt frequently, be careful and pay attention!


About the wedding planning… Starting to follow wedding planning company’s instagram / facebook accounts, or peeking the articles related wedding from forums, when you secretly notice the sign (which they won’t inform you at the very beginning stage because of shyness), you gotta start to have some preparation, or at least some thoughts about wedding so as to prevent the sudden questions asked by girls, probably half year later. You know, it could show you have thought about you guys’ future 😏.
Before preparing for wedding, it is one of girls’ fantasies. Don’t break our daydream and you could be our hero if you could work out what we girls have thought in my mind, which has been existence for awhile already.
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{relationship} The sweetest moment he brought me…

1. The 1st meal is in Jollibee, yes he knows I like its spaghetti so much and he even told his relative about it. He also could remember to ask the staff to have no cheese on top of spaghetti.

2. He used his hand to cover my eyes when there’s strong sunshine coming through, even when he’s driving. It reminds me of the 1st night we met, he used his hand to support my head not to fall off when the plane is about to land.

3. He always be the one to hold my hand when I’m daydreaming and even he’s driving.

4. He told me I could pick a good tee that he really likes and could wear 3 times per week (It’s from Nike and he said the fitting suits him).

5. My glasses were flushed away by a seawive and I was so nervous because I needa go to take a flight back to HK. Few mins later he could find it!! Although it’s not a sweet thing, I still wanna remark he is a hero ’cause he just saved my life!! Haha
I hope later I could write what he did to me in a small notebook and then one day when there’s no empty pages, I will give it as his present. 100% hand made with love and memory. Priceless.
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{Self} Changings after 27-year-old

1. Less hang out at night. I will rather stay at home to have a rest instead of going out for fun with friends (Yet I will watch football match at home at 2:30am…).

2. Have much time with family. Time is passing by and not gonna come back, treasure every moment with the closed one is very important (Mobile is not the VIP).

3. Have much quality life. When I could earn much money from work, I prefer to choose the most desirable to buy and eat, and to have a few mins exercise on bed before sleep.


4. Satisfied for what I got. Minimalism is classy, and then check my wardrobe and think there’s pretty much enough clothes to wear and I’m not gonna buy more now.

5. Check about the wedding-related post in instagram. What a beautiful dress and venue. My wedding will go for the simpliest! A lunch cocktail party, then a fine dinner with only our family, then in the next morning we both go to honeymoon.

6. Think about future career, then to decide if the current company could provide you any prospert. I quitted my job and will start a new one next Thursday!

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{self} naked resignation

Previously, I told you guys that I am gonna change a new job, but then after working there for a month, I decided to resign.

Although people would think it is a big company and I should stay there for longer time to get the experience and to make my CV attractive, I could bare the poor sleeping quality during that period. I think nothing is important than health.
Therefore, I filed the resignation letter without finding a job to junp over.

Mom wasn’t happy when she heard that which I forseen it already, but then I got my boyfriend to support my decision, thanks God! 

And then I thought I could excel my resting plan which was planned on August, I started sending CV out to various companies and agencies however, which because I fear that I might not be able to get a job in the year end- Everyone is waiting for the bonus.
Throughout the whole week I sent the CV and went to interviews, like an intensive work for 5 weekdays, feel tired physically and psychologically…

Luckily, I got an offer today, it is the 7th working day from my last working day, and expected to start working next Wednesday (Nov 1).

During this job hunting period:

1. Want to thank you my closed friend for the support psychologically, something I told him before but when the case is on me, I become the one to be coward.

2. Realize one of the securities that I need is job, so I might not have a 2nd chance to have naked resignation.

3. Always be confident and bring positive vibe to your heart, not to affect the emotion of people surrounding you, especially family. I felt impatient when mom kept asking me questions…

4. Spend the spare time with my dad, who has retired. Once I back to work market, he would just stay at home to prepare for dinner or sit onto sofa to watch videos via mobile haha!


Rock on you guys! And me as well. Hope you all could try to enjoy your work.

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{relationship} How do I deal with long distance relationship

I have been in LDR for a year, and so comfortable with him (He feels the same too!), so I think I could share some my experience to whom are in LDR as well.

#1- Clear mindset. Before you are in LDR, pls understand your partner can’t be anytime and anywhere you want. Don’t expect he/she will hug you when you are down, otherwise you guys will argue a lot.

#2- Communicating pattetn. We usually have video chat once a week, and five ‘Good morning’ msg on weekday to start our work. For weekend, we might just shut up or only for something essential to say, just like a personal free time. Also it’s important to tell him why you are mad at him, communication time is so valuable to us, can’t be wasted!

#3- Meet up in every 3-4 months.

#4- Learn the language. My partner is a Filipino, so I’m learning Tagalog, just a way to understand his world, and to make use my free time.

#5- Surprise. I sent him postcard when I was in Singapore, and sent him a parcel which I ordered from Selfridges to kill his pimple scar (But actualy it’s no longer a surprise because he got a SMS that a DHL parcel is coming and he’s scared because he didn’t order anything online haha! And then he asked me… It’s a funny memory tho).


Tomorrow I’m gonna catch the flight ticket for November, see the date, it’s just for a night!!! I never try to take a flight just for that short trip… But what to do? He is much important. I hope we could meet again in X’mas so I won’t cry like a dog… Wish me luck (Finger-crossed!)
Me: Gemini-Cancer

He: Gemini
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{relationship} 1-year anniversary

Dear Alien,
I remember the night we met on the plane last year, we had a great and non-stop conversation for 4 hours, we both got red eyes after landed.

I remember the night we chatted on phone, talking about the attitude after knowing my sister smoke, I told you she is well educated and should know the harm, but you told me it’s her choice.

I remember the night I phoned you for 4 times but you didn’t pick up, and finally you blocked me on Facebook, I was hurted, deeply.

I remember the night I sent an email to you to ask for being friend again and you said OK then I was glad to keep the connection.

I remember the night I took a flight after work and met you in the airport, you holded my hand, and I’m yours. 
Yes we are in a long distance relationship.

Yes we may not be able to be upload our sweet selfie and have tight hug frequently, but we could always make each other 101% fully charged to start our day and fighting on our work.
Tomorrow will be our 1-year birthday, we are looking forward to seeing this baby grow up. You may afriad of you become a grandpa who has bad temper, memory, and with wrinkles on face, but I cannot find anyone who can replace you, my best gift in life.

I know we might have much challenge than others, but I am confidence to tackle one by one because you are with me and I’m with you. 
Love,

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SQ225, from Singapore to Perth. 

The monitor told me to wait, at that time I wasn’t aware I would meet my important boy soon…

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deal with the negative harsh moment!

when you look back those bad things happened on you, you would definitely think oneself is silly as those stuff doesn’t worth to make yourself that emotional, turns out you could know you are getting something back, much valuable.

frankly speaking, there are ups and downs starting from the beginning of 2016. i am now recovering from heartbreaking and disappointing moment, and starting to make my social life back to normal. there is a man told me that life is beautiful and now i always grasp the positive vibe tight, even though he is another one to make me disappoint… i’m ok if he is not the one.

and below is the my usual practices of dealing with the negative harsh moment.

still remember the bygone euro 2016, i cried like a dog when germany is lost in the semi-final, ozil’s heartbreaking moment captured by the photographers made me more sad (photo credit: metro.co.uk).

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best to accompany with beer. i could fall asleep easier, and my mind and body could be more hyper and relax, and forget those stuff… for a while. or in the opposite way it makes you cry much and then could sleep because of tired.

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in it is raining, best to go to the street without umbrella, and then walk slowly. somehow it is so refreshing. just ignore what others would think, you own your whole world. similarly, i would go swimming to refresh myself, a good excuse to use up excess energy to avoid overthinking and train up body. sports could also release endorphin as you know…

reading books, a productive way to make yourself better, usually i would read korean and german language books.

but i don’t share my unhappiness to friends and family. i believe no one could 100% understand how you feel and the difficulty i face, and i’m the only person who can fight back those stuff (cool, right? haha)

seems it is not possible to live positively in every secs, but being a 26-year-old lady, i should be mature enough to distract myself to focus on the good aspects, so as to be able to welcome the better one to come along. not quite possible doesn’t mean impossible, everything begins with a belief and determination, take action without excuse, otherwise i would look down on you (i’m an emotional cancer and i did it 🙂 )

here’s a song to recommend you all to get your dance vibe while listening, even though today is just thursday (happy thursday then!), go check out the youtube link.

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