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{relationship} My way to communicate with his family for the 1st meet-up

Previously mentioned I went to Manila and join his aunt’s bday party in a beach resort, and that’s my 1st time to meet his aunt / uncle’s family (they are the bro and sis of his mom, so really important to leave a good impression!!).

Alcohol makes people happy and relax, so when I arrived, I asked if there’s any beers (I like beer very much and he knows it hehe), and then we talked while drinking, for few hours. 

We picked Red Horse, a strong beer contains 6.9% alcohol.


And then I found they are so so nice, like the typical Filipino which always brings smile, and I opened myself, even talking about my salary and if I’m ready for marriage…

Food sharing is also a good way to make a happy atmosphere, especially for food-hunter Filipino!


Showing caring is important as well, since one of uncles needed to drive and pick another uncles’ family up there and he had drunk some beer and whisky with us, that’s why I worried if he could drive properly as I also have driving license as well and I could accompany he to go so there’s someone to support. And to tell aunt “last cigarette”, and uncle “dont drink too much”.

Of course there are so many ways to have a good start with his family, just bear in mind that to use my own mind and soul to communicate with them, not a fake smile could build up relationship. 

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{travel} My shortest trip ever

Last weekend I have been to Manila again to visit my bf, and the trip is just 2D1N! I was working in my previous new job while booking this flight, so the trip is that short.

When I checked in, the staff was surprised:”Oh day trip”.

The girl sitting next to me on plane was surprised as well, and said the story of me and my bf is romantic (Hump you are not the 1st one said it).

Although the flight took 2 hours, we drove 4-5 hours from Manila to Morong, Pawikan Beach Resort, to join his aunt’s birthday party. That’s my 1st time to meet the uncle who has been shown many times from bf’s selfies. I could tell what I did in the future post.


The place is beautiful, it’s a place to educate people how to save / important of turtle’s life. You can also book a room there for a night, seems 2000peso per room.

Anyway, time flies, we woke up at 6am and swam a bit (I almost lost my glasses which was flushed by a sudden wave!) then drove back to Manila for another 4-5 hours.

My sister and some friends thought I was crazy because the trip is too short, what I could do in this limited time, but this trip could really bring memory to me because this’s the 1st time of:

1. Swim in Philippines’ sea

2. Meet his relatives

3. He drove me to airport (Previously I didnt depart on Sunday so will call hotel service)

My energy bar is fully filled again for work. And I am waiting for the time passing to welcome his turn to visit me in HK early next year.
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{relationship} How do I deal with long distance relationship

I have been in LDR for a year, and so comfortable with him (He feels the same too!), so I think I could share some my experience to whom are in LDR as well.

#1- Clear mindset. Before you are in LDR, pls understand your partner can’t be anytime and anywhere you want. Don’t expect he/she will hug you when you are down, otherwise you guys will argue a lot.

#2- Communicating pattetn. We usually have video chat once a week, and five ‘Good morning’ msg on weekday to start our work. For weekend, we might just shut up or only for something essential to say, just like a personal free time. Also it’s important to tell him why you are mad at him, communication time is so valuable to us, can’t be wasted!

#3- Meet up in every 3-4 months.

#4- Learn the language. My partner is a Filipino, so I’m learning Tagalog, just a way to understand his world, and to make use my free time.

#5- Surprise. I sent him postcard when I was in Singapore, and sent him a parcel which I ordered from Selfridges to kill his pimple scar (But actualy it’s no longer a surprise because he got a SMS that a DHL parcel is coming and he’s scared because he didn’t order anything online haha! And then he asked me… It’s a funny memory tho).


Tomorrow I’m gonna catch the flight ticket for November, see the date, it’s just for a night!!! I never try to take a flight just for that short trip… But what to do? He is much important. I hope we could meet again in X’mas so I won’t cry like a dog… Wish me luck (Finger-crossed!)
Me: Gemini-Cancer

He: Gemini
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initial impression of manila, the philippines

actually this is the 2nd time for me to visit manila, but since i didn’t go much places so i think it’s best to call it “initial” impression 😛

places i have stayed

last oct is the first time i went there and stayed in pasay area and been to tagaytay which is a place to see the volcano inside a lake. hun drove 2 hours from the city but pity that we didnt spend much time there. i think it’s recommended to stay a night there to admire the view more.

and for this time i picked to stay in makati area since hun’s office and different malls nearby 😛 i can go walking around while waiting for his lunch hour or off duty.

construction

manila is the capital of the philippines and you can see that there are lots of construction, a common thing for the developing country. so you can imagine the growth of this place after 5-10 years.

traffic

i’m also wondered if the government could solve the traffic jam issue later, which hun is very frustrated on it everyday, he needa take double or even triple time to reach office or home!

eco-friendly

i remember last time when i went to supermarket, the staff gave us plastic bag even we just bought 2 bottles of drinks. but this time hun told me no straws and plastic bags (or maybe even more plastic stuff) after the regulation. not sure if this is a newly developed laws but i’m sure it’s a good beginning!

beg for money

there are some children who bare their foot to beg for money, i have experienced during the 2 visits.

smile

if you visit the philippines once, you could find the locals here always smile and could show the passion to life. not sure if this is due to their religion, nationality or located near the tropical region… i’m quite surprised the lady who was sweeping the bridge floor would say “morning” to me, which you could seldom/never find in hk… therefore i could say their service quality is outstanding.

of course, you have to be caution to the stranger when you are in the foreign country to prevent any unhappiness happened on your journey.

next visit will be decided upon hun’s business trip confirmation, so my next stop would probably be perth, sydney or singapore. stay tuned!

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starting my long distance relationship

just back from my paradise for 2 days, it’s the best time to have some throwback. remember what i mentioned i will have an impromptu trip to manila? yea there’s a special man living there so he’s the only reason i went there (of course who i met there are nice and helpful, however the government needa improves the traffic and environment). i took a half day off from work and then went directly to the airport, and i thought he waited for an hour because the custom was so slow… and i couldn’t connect the wifi while waiting.

here he was, met at the burger king, a kiss to my ear, hmm actually to my iphone earphone , and then all the way to the carpark, met his car (or i shld say his wife? he spent a lot on it) while interlocking fingers. ok, this is our first date since we met on june.

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the view of manila, it’s stunning. honestly i didn’t expect the philippines could amaze me.

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i think next time i should bring my swimsuit so i don’t waste time to wait his coming in the morning, argh! the hotel i stayed called 88 courtyard in pasay, which near ninoy airport terminal 3. the staff is nice 🙂 and there are restaurants and convenient stores nearby. recommend!

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tagaytay, few hours drive from manila, thank him so much! so he remembered i wanna see volcano!! i didn’t search up any tourist spots and he did it wow. during the driving time, we listened to music with some singing and weird dance haha.

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and he said he might come over hk on december… hmm seriously no expectation, no disappointment. he needa save hard for his living…. ah shld be his wife.

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he kept asking me if i’m hungry all the time and i kept saying “no”. probably he’s the one to be hungry haha! so finally he took me to eat chinese food… and actually i didn’t try these combination in hk before! dumplings with lime? that bread called saobao but doesn’t have its traditional appearance haha. but still delicious.

of course, being a gemini-cancer girl, i’m fucking missing him and cried in front of him because the time we spent together is fucking limited, what he told me is to keep myself busy and then look at the instant pics we took -.- alright, that’s how cruel long distance relationship is and we shld be mature enough to face our challenge in our own city and support each other mentally. ok…. no more crying baby and overthinking, that’s suck. women shld be confident enough not to afraid men would treat, what a meant-to-be one never makes you feel that sick.

just wanna grow old with you, j.

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