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{relationship} My male friend!

There are so much argument over the topic of if boy and girl could be just friend. I’m always positive, maybe due to my boyish personality?! I find it’s easier for me to friend with boy.

I met a boy last year in a German class, and just got closer 3 months later when we talked about football- we support the same team and then now we almost chat via Whatsapp everyday. I feel amazed and I honestly told him that he is my good friend because something only he knows (not even my girl besties)!

We hanged out for watching football match together, drinking beer and talking some personal trouble on work. We always share dog pics via Instagram, talk about the PS4 and Nintendo Switch, and now back to German course again after a 3-month break.

The below pic is the my text (talking about Adidas sneakers) shown on his newly bought Garmin watch.


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Of course, for a girl who has a boyfriend and even proceeding a long distance relationship, you have to be determined and know exactly what you are doing. There should have no flirting in between. A rational person should be able to differentiate how friend and boyfriend should treat.

And of course, having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean you can’t have an opposite-sex friend! Getting to know different people could definitely widen horizon and knowledge scope, because we have limited time to expore one by one by ourselves.
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{relationship} Festival poison

Happy 2018!! Did you guys have an amazing night with loved one to celebrate at New Year’s Eve? Me nope! The day before he said he might have a video chat with me but turned out nope. Sigh, I were too mad and almost couldn’t sleep well- I heard there were people talked loudly and the firework, but I were so mad and want to ignore all and then date with sleeping god.

And then the next day I told him I won’t celebrate any special dates with him anymore- no expectation, no disappointment. 

Ah suddenly I think of what people usually say- everyday can be the Valentine’s Day. Yes maybe it’s a way to make our relationship to be easier, when you know a happy life is not easy to have, unless you don’t too focus or emphasize the importance of thing.

Here’s the pic he sent me- I requested a letter to me as my X’mas present, and I were mad again when I just saw these few words on a A4 paper… He, as a Gemini, tried to say some tricky theory (More letters means much love) and want me to be convinced. Humph not that easy! I’m not that stupid to make you fool me around lol


Although everyday could be X’mas or Valentine’s Day, I still hope we could be together to enjoy the day, and the festive atmosphere 🙂
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{relationship} All the hardship…

I know long distance relationship isn’t easy, I have been with this boy for over 1 year already, and I thought I am getting used on it, but turn out a real challenge is coming- he is going to stay much far away, staying period is an unknown.

Originally he lives in the Philippines, and I am in Hong Kong. Next Monday he is going to Melbourne to live with his mom (because his dad is pass away). He’s working for an Australian company so he is able to work at home, for IT stuff.

In rationale wise I know his mom needs him so much and he needs her too, they haven’t been together for a long time, and his dream is to gather all the family member (including his sis & bro) and live happily to compensate the pass.

I know as a considerate girlfriend should be able to understand all his situation, as in 2017 he didn’t have a good time. I don’t know why I will think of maybe break up? Maybe find another partner? Maybe not pick up his phone, not answer his message then fade out the affection? All the maybe is maybe I’m not confidence on the relationship now.

I can’t stand the feeling, then I texted him “I don’t know what I should feel”. Yes I’m honest to him, because I really don’t know if I should be sad for his much far away, or happy as he could stay with his family now.


So this article I can’t share you something positive vibe or tips on dealing stuff, much like I’m talking to myself and to clear my mind what I’m thinking.


As a soon-to-be-28, should be mature enough to have open communication, right? Silent treatment is for baby Cancer. Yea and a mature one should spend some time with beer, right?

 

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{relationship} The sweetest moment he brought me…

1. The 1st meal is in Jollibee, yes he knows I like its spaghetti so much and he even told his relative about it. He also could remember to ask the staff to have no cheese on top of spaghetti.

2. He used his hand to cover my eyes when there’s strong sunshine coming through, even when he’s driving. It reminds me of the 1st night we met, he used his hand to support my head not to fall off when the plane is about to land.

3. He always be the one to hold my hand when I’m daydreaming and even he’s driving.

4. He told me I could pick a good tee that he really likes and could wear 3 times per week (It’s from Nike and he said the fitting suits him).

5. My glasses were flushed away by a seawive and I was so nervous because I needa go to take a flight back to HK. Few mins later he could find it!! Although it’s not a sweet thing, I still wanna remark he is a hero ’cause he just saved my life!! Haha
I hope later I could write what he did to me in a small notebook and then one day when there’s no empty pages, I will give it as his present. 100% hand made with love and memory. Priceless.
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{relationship} My way to communicate with his family for the 1st meet-up

Previously mentioned I went to Manila and join his aunt’s bday party in a beach resort, and that’s my 1st time to meet his aunt / uncle’s family (they are the bro and sis of his mom, so really important to leave a good impression!!).

Alcohol makes people happy and relax, so when I arrived, I asked if there’s any beers (I like beer very much and he knows it hehe), and then we talked while drinking, for few hours. 

We picked Red Horse, a strong beer contains 6.9% alcohol.


And then I found they are so so nice, like the typical Filipino which always brings smile, and I opened myself, even talking about my salary and if I’m ready for marriage…

Food sharing is also a good way to make a happy atmosphere, especially for food-hunter Filipino!


Showing caring is important as well, since one of uncles needed to drive and pick another uncles’ family up there and he had drunk some beer and whisky with us, that’s why I worried if he could drive properly as I also have driving license as well and I could accompany he to go so there’s someone to support. And to tell aunt “last cigarette”, and uncle “dont drink too much”.

Of course there are so many ways to have a good start with his family, just bear in mind that to use my own mind and soul to communicate with them, not a fake smile could build up relationship. 

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{travel} My shortest trip ever

Last weekend I have been to Manila again to visit my bf, and the trip is just 2D1N! I was working in my previous new job while booking this flight, so the trip is that short.

When I checked in, the staff was surprised:”Oh day trip”.

The girl sitting next to me on plane was surprised as well, and said the story of me and my bf is romantic (Hump you are not the 1st one said it).

Although the flight took 2 hours, we drove 4-5 hours from Manila to Morong, Pawikan Beach Resort, to join his aunt’s birthday party. That’s my 1st time to meet the uncle who has been shown many times from bf’s selfies. I could tell what I did in the future post.


The place is beautiful, it’s a place to educate people how to save / important of turtle’s life. You can also book a room there for a night, seems 2000peso per room.

Anyway, time flies, we woke up at 6am and swam a bit (I almost lost my glasses which was flushed by a sudden wave!) then drove back to Manila for another 4-5 hours.

My sister and some friends thought I was crazy because the trip is too short, what I could do in this limited time, but this trip could really bring memory to me because this’s the 1st time of:

1. Swim in Philippines’ sea

2. Meet his relatives

3. He drove me to airport (Previously I didnt depart on Sunday so will call hotel service)

My energy bar is fully filled again for work. And I am waiting for the time passing to welcome his turn to visit me in HK early next year.
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{relationship} How do I deal with long distance relationship

I have been in LDR for a year, and so comfortable with him (He feels the same too!), so I think I could share some my experience to whom are in LDR as well.

#1- Clear mindset. Before you are in LDR, pls understand your partner can’t be anytime and anywhere you want. Don’t expect he/she will hug you when you are down, otherwise you guys will argue a lot.

#2- Communicating pattetn. We usually have video chat once a week, and five ‘Good morning’ msg on weekday to start our work. For weekend, we might just shut up or only for something essential to say, just like a personal free time. Also it’s important to tell him why you are mad at him, communication time is so valuable to us, can’t be wasted!

#3- Meet up in every 3-4 months.

#4- Learn the language. My partner is a Filipino, so I’m learning Tagalog, just a way to understand his world, and to make use my free time.

#5- Surprise. I sent him postcard when I was in Singapore, and sent him a parcel which I ordered from Selfridges to kill his pimple scar (But actualy it’s no longer a surprise because he got a SMS that a DHL parcel is coming and he’s scared because he didn’t order anything online haha! And then he asked me… It’s a funny memory tho).


Tomorrow I’m gonna catch the flight ticket for November, see the date, it’s just for a night!!! I never try to take a flight just for that short trip… But what to do? He is much important. I hope we could meet again in X’mas so I won’t cry like a dog… Wish me luck (Finger-crossed!)
Me: Gemini-Cancer

He: Gemini
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{relationship} 1-year anniversary

Dear Alien,
I remember the night we met on the plane last year, we had a great and non-stop conversation for 4 hours, we both got red eyes after landed.

I remember the night we chatted on phone, talking about the attitude after knowing my sister smoke, I told you she is well educated and should know the harm, but you told me it’s her choice.

I remember the night I phoned you for 4 times but you didn’t pick up, and finally you blocked me on Facebook, I was hurted, deeply.

I remember the night I sent an email to you to ask for being friend again and you said OK then I was glad to keep the connection.

I remember the night I took a flight after work and met you in the airport, you holded my hand, and I’m yours. 
Yes we are in a long distance relationship.

Yes we may not be able to be upload our sweet selfie and have tight hug frequently, but we could always make each other 101% fully charged to start our day and fighting on our work.
Tomorrow will be our 1-year birthday, we are looking forward to seeing this baby grow up. You may afriad of you become a grandpa who has bad temper, memory, and with wrinkles on face, but I cannot find anyone who can replace you, my best gift in life.

I know we might have much challenge than others, but I am confidence to tackle one by one because you are with me and I’m with you. 
Love,

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SQ225, from Singapore to Perth. 

The monitor told me to wait, at that time I wasn’t aware I would meet my important boy soon…

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[relationship] when we got argument

being a long distance relationship couple, we really have lesser time than others to meet up face to face, but we still get a chance to make each other mad haha! although we know we should treasure these valuable time that we are together…

last week i went to manila, the philippines again, that’s my 3rd time to be there. he picked me up as usual in the terminal 3 at burger king, and then drove to his home, thing went smoothly, until the 2nd night. he talked about the problems he is facing make him stressful, while hearing that, my tear couldn’t help to drop, he-is-wondered-why-i-was-cyring! gosh i’m a very typical cancer, with fluctuated emotion! actually that’s fine as that’s not his fault.

in the 3rd night, he had to leave me alone in the hotel because he needed to fix the hose in his condo, which had already made his room flooding. i were frustrated! how come he left me alone and we just had very little time spending together! plus, he always sticks with his iphone, i felt like ‘i don’t have a meaning/value to be here, why i need to take a flight to the ph’. all the disappointment made me to not to have eye contact, not talking to him (even i did, my voice is cold). but i were still willing to have lunch with him because i know i can’t be like that, i needed to give him a chance to talk with me haha! i had an outburst inside the japanese restaurant! i cried while eating ramen, why i need to look so poor! i bet the staff and other customers might peep at us… luckily he kept talking to me and tried his best to solve the problem immediately (if not solve at that time, he would definitely talk all with me at night right before sleep), he is such a rational & communicative gemini haha!

i think i should learn from him, and do the same if we have another argument.

 

on the other hand, if you want to make a woman calm down and have a better mood, you can try these:

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  1. let her calm down inside a very big shopping mall. yes i felt good after finishing the ramen with him and went to different malls in makati, manila. there’s a sale period during my visit, how lucky! trust me, it 100% works! my mood turned good when i bought 2 shoes for myself.
  2. give her a warm hug. make her into your arms, sometimes we are tired during the fight.
  3. say you understand her feeling, why she is disappointed. also there’s a twist, if the argument outbreak is due to some reason that isn’t his fault, like the case his hose was broken and had to fix immediately, told her that ‘i thought you would/are the 1st one to understand that’. when i heard it, i really felt bad to myself because i’m always the 1st one that he shares his problem/stress to. right after he said it, i immediately said sorry john -_-
  4. say sorry. not only once.
  5. kiss her forehead. do it when you think she has calmed already.
  6. do sport together. at that night, we went to play bowling and really had big smiles on our face! endorphin works!

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of course, mutual understanding and efficient communication are the best way to avoid unnecessary argument, wish you guys/us luck!

 

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[relationship] the way my man text

as you all may know, i’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, and 90% of our communication is by texting via imessages (for your information, the other 5% is by facetime and the balance 5% by face to face talking. yesss i don’t really much like chatting on phone than the other girls, so i guess he is happy to have me, just don’t need to spend extra energy to handle lol). we met for almost half year, and below are some of his texting habits:

a good morning text to start our day-

and most of the time, he will send me a good morning text from monday to friday (maybe i told him once i’m so happy to receive his msg when i wake up), sometimes at 7am, 8am, 9 am, and the latest one should be at 11:45… yea not yet reach noon! good job bro! and usually i will wait til his first msg ’cause i know he must be busy on handling some shit task.

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he always texts me ‘i love you’ more than i do, he is such a sweet (and flirty :P) guy! and that’s why he got soooo many ex-girlfriend (he told me, not sure if it’s true lol). and the most funniest thing is, he once was telling me he might go to consult a doctor due to stress or frustration from work/family/money, in a kind of bitter face, and then all of a sudden he said ‘i love you’, with that bitter face. omg i couldn’t help laughing! maybe he’s a gemini man and could change that fast in emotion, and maybe i shouldn’t laugh at that moment, but yes i did laughing and he’s just curious what on earth was happened! hummm he’s just so cute.

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maybe we couldn’t meet each other frequently, or maybe he’s just personally love taking photos, he always sends his selfie to me, just like to remind me his face/show me what he’s doing/where he is… i think he’s doing his boyfriend job well. ar! also he always tells me how his car’s doing… that’s a trouble old car which always has some parts to disorder and cause us to spend a lot…

no texting time-

i found that he usually stops texting me afternoon, most probably he got conferences at that time and really wanna finish the task so to leave office as early as possible (thanks to the traffic jam issue in manila, he needs to drive 2 hours back to home… poor!). i guess everybody especially men need more private space. and who would only have girlfriend/boyfriend in their life? we all have family, friends and colleagues to spend time with 🙂

just to have a friendly reminder, we don’t need to compare with/jealous each other on what kind of boyfriend/girlfriend we have, because that’s the person you picked at first! the way you guys have a comfortable and feel easy/free to handle the relationship, the one you should treasure on 🙂 rock on boys and girls! and to relax……..

 

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