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{relationship} All the hardship…

I know long distance relationship isn’t easy, I have been with this boy for over 1 year already, and I thought I am getting used on it, but turn out a real challenge is coming- he is going to stay much far away, staying period is an unknown.

Originally he lives in the Philippines, and I am in Hong Kong. Next Monday he is going to Melbourne to live with his mom (because his dad is pass away). He’s working for an Australian company so he is able to work at home, for IT stuff.

In rationale wise I know his mom needs him so much and he needs her too, they haven’t been together for a long time, and his dream is to gather all the family member (including his sis & bro) and live happily to compensate the pass.

I know as a considerate girlfriend should be able to understand all his situation, as in 2017 he didn’t have a good time. I don’t know why I will think of maybe break up? Maybe find another partner? Maybe not pick up his phone, not answer his message then fade out the affection? All the maybe is maybe I’m not confidence on the relationship now.

I can’t stand the feeling, then I texted him “I don’t know what I should feel”. Yes I’m honest to him, because I really don’t know if I should be sad for his much far away, or happy as he could stay with his family now.


So this article I can’t share you something positive vibe or tips on dealing stuff, much like I’m talking to myself and to clear my mind what I’m thinking.


As a soon-to-be-28, should be mature enough to have open communication, right? Silent treatment is for baby Cancer. Yea and a mature one should spend some time with beer, right?

 

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deal with the negative harsh moment!

when you look back those bad things happened on you, you would definitely think oneself is silly as those stuff doesn’t worth to make yourself that emotional, turns out you could know you are getting something back, much valuable.

frankly speaking, there are ups and downs starting from the beginning of 2016. i am now recovering from heartbreaking and disappointing moment, and starting to make my social life back to normal. there is a man told me that life is beautiful and now i always grasp the positive vibe tight, even though he is another one to make me disappoint… i’m ok if he is not the one.

and below is the my usual practices of dealing with the negative harsh moment.

still remember the bygone euro 2016, i cried like a dog when germany is lost in the semi-final, ozil’s heartbreaking moment captured by the photographers made me more sad (photo credit: metro.co.uk).

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best to accompany with beer. i could fall asleep easier, and my mind and body could be more hyper and relax, and forget those stuff… for a while. or in the opposite way it makes you cry much and then could sleep because of tired.

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in it is raining, best to go to the street without umbrella, and then walk slowly. somehow it is so refreshing. just ignore what others would think, you own your whole world. similarly, i would go swimming to refresh myself, a good excuse to use up excess energy to avoid overthinking and train up body. sports could also release endorphin as you know…

reading books, a productive way to make yourself better, usually i would read korean and german language books.

but i don’t share my unhappiness to friends and family. i believe no one could 100% understand how you feel and the difficulty i face, and i’m the only person who can fight back those stuff (cool, right? haha)

seems it is not possible to live positively in every secs, but being a 26-year-old lady, i should be mature enough to distract myself to focus on the good aspects, so as to be able to welcome the better one to come along. not quite possible doesn’t mean impossible, everything begins with a belief and determination, take action without excuse, otherwise i would look down on you (i’m an emotional cancer and i did it 🙂 )

here’s a song to recommend you all to get your dance vibe while listening, even though today is just thursday (happy thursday then!), go check out the youtube link.

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