{relationship} Couple face

Although people always say everyone is different and unique, you could always find someone looks alike some artists/singer.

And, friends around you would sometimes talk about the likeliness of your face with bf/gf (you may not know but they must mention once with your other friends). Actually it’s quite happy when friends say both of you look alike, like it’s a small prove of perfect match.

Months ago, I did a test online to upload our pics then got the above result, 76 isn’t bad because there are some look-alike celebrities couple are tested and the scores are close to mine (of course it’s just for fun, but score does a li~ttle bit matter 🌚).
But it doesn’t mean that the much look alike, the lower chance you guys would break up. 

One of my friends who is really look alike with her ex-bf, but few years later they broke up. And then her current bf, again, looks alike her 😂 WTF
And of course, there’s a combination of beauty and the beast…
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{relationship} My male friend!

There are so much argument over the topic of if boy and girl could be just friend. I’m always positive, maybe due to my boyish personality?! I find it’s easier for me to friend with boy.

I met a boy last year in a German class, and just got closer 3 months later when we talked about football- we support the same team and then now we almost chat via Whatsapp everyday. I feel amazed and I honestly told him that he is my good friend because something only he knows (not even my girl besties)!

We hanged out for watching football match together, drinking beer and talking some personal trouble on work. We always share dog pics via Instagram, talk about the PS4 and Nintendo Switch, and now back to German course again after a 3-month break.

The below pic is the my text (talking about Adidas sneakers) shown on his newly bought Garmin watch.

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Of course, for a girl who has a boyfriend and even proceeding a long distance relationship, you have to be determined and know exactly what you are doing. There should have no flirting in between. A rational person should be able to differentiate how friend and boyfriend should treat.

And of course, having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean you can’t have an opposite-sex friend! Getting to know different people could definitely widen horizon and knowledge scope, because we have limited time to expore one by one by ourselves.
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{relationship} Festival poison

Happy 2018!! Did you guys have an amazing night with loved one to celebrate at New Year’s Eve? Me nope! The day before he said he might have a video chat with me but turned out nope. Sigh, I were too mad and almost couldn’t sleep well- I heard there were people talked loudly and the firework, but I were so mad and want to ignore all and then date with sleeping god.

And then the next day I told him I won’t celebrate any special dates with him anymore- no expectation, no disappointment. 

Ah suddenly I think of what people usually say- everyday can be the Valentine’s Day. Yes maybe it’s a way to make our relationship to be easier, when you know a happy life is not easy to have, unless you don’t too focus or emphasize the importance of thing.

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Here’s the pic he sent me- I requested a letter to me as my X’mas present, and I were mad again when I just saw these few words on a A4 paper… He, as a Gemini, tried to say some tricky theory (More letters means much love) and want me to be convinced. Humph not that easy! I’m not that stupid to make you fool me around lol

Although everyday could be X’mas or Valentine’s Day, I still hope we could be together to enjoy the day, and the festive atmosphere 🙂
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{relationship} All the hardship…

I know long distance relationship isn’t easy, I have been with this boy for over 1 year already, and I thought I am getting used on it, but turn out a real challenge is coming- he is going to stay much far away, staying period is an unknown.

Originally he lives in the Philippines, and I am in Hong Kong. Next Monday he is going to Melbourne to live with his mom (because his dad is pass away). He’s working for an Australian company so he is able to work at home, for IT stuff.

In rationale wise I know his mom needs him so much and he needs her too, they haven’t been together for a long time, and his dream is to gather all the family member (including his sis & bro) and live happily to compensate the pass.

I know as a considerate girlfriend should be able to understand all his situation, as in 2017 he didn’t have a good time. I don’t know why I will think of maybe break up? Maybe find another partner? Maybe not pick up his phone, not answer his message then fade out the affection? All the maybe is maybe I’m not confidence on the relationship now.

I can’t stand the feeling, then I texted him “I don’t know what I should feel”. Yes I’m honest to him, because I really don’t know if I should be sad for his much far away, or happy as he could stay with his family now.

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So this article I can’t share you something positive vibe or tips on dealing stuff, much like I’m talking to myself and to clear my mind what I’m thinking.

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As a soon-to-be-28, should be mature enough to have open communication, right? Silent treatment is for baby Cancer. Yea and a mature one should spend some time with beer, right?

 

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{relationship} About wedding, boys might not know…

Every girl must imagine her own dream wedding. Dream doesn’t mean to be grand, but that wedding must suit own personality and unique.
About the banquet… I am quite a low key person, I don’t want to hold a banquet in hotel ballroom or Chinese restaurant that is typical in HK. Instead, a lunch gathering or cocktail party is so ME! This is a budget wise way so we could spend more on honeymoon trip, which is a much private way to celebrate. Of course, maybe both families would like to have a bigger banquet due to the matter of face… But at least you know not all girls would like to have a grand one, and even want to finish afternoon and take honeymoon flight at that night!

About the dress… I start to search the chic dress in spare time, just to look for which style fits me and to shorten the trouble when I will REALLY prepare wedding. Alice + Olivia, Needle & Thread, Self Portrait… If holding a cocktail party, short dress is quite a good idea haha Not clumsy though. So you know not all girls are looking for a classy white lace wedding dress, and when you know girls are starting to look for a dress which they don’t even wear skirt frequently, be careful and pay attention!

About the wedding planning… Starting to follow wedding planning company’s instagram / facebook accounts, or peeking the articles related wedding from forums, when you secretly notice the sign (which they won’t inform you at the very beginning stage because of shyness), you gotta start to have some preparation, or at least some thoughts about wedding so as to prevent the sudden questions asked by girls, probably half year later. You know, it could show you have thought about you guys’ future 😏.
Before preparing for wedding, it is one of girls’ fantasies. Don’t break our daydream and you could be our hero if you could work out what we girls have thought in my mind, which has been existence for awhile already.
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{relationship} The sweetest moment he brought me…

1. The 1st meal is in Jollibee, yes he knows I like its spaghetti so much and he even told his relative about it. He also could remember to ask the staff to have no cheese on top of spaghetti.

2. He used his hand to cover my eyes when there’s strong sunshine coming through, even when he’s driving. It reminds me of the 1st night we met, he used his hand to support my head not to fall off when the plane is about to land.

3. He always be the one to hold my hand when I’m daydreaming and even he’s driving.

4. He told me I could pick a good tee that he really likes and could wear 3 times per week (It’s from Nike and he said the fitting suits him).

5. My glasses were flushed away by a seawive and I was so nervous because I needa go to take a flight back to HK. Few mins later he could find it!! Although it’s not a sweet thing, I still wanna remark he is a hero ’cause he just saved my life!! Haha
I hope later I could write what he did to me in a small notebook and then one day when there’s no empty pages, I will give it as his present. 100% hand made with love and memory. Priceless.
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{relationship} My way to communicate with his family for the 1st meet-up

Previously mentioned I went to Manila and join his aunt’s bday party in a beach resort, and that’s my 1st time to meet his aunt / uncle’s family (they are the bro and sis of his mom, so really important to leave a good impression!!).

Alcohol makes people happy and relax, so when I arrived, I asked if there’s any beers (I like beer very much and he knows it hehe), and then we talked while drinking, for few hours. 

We picked Red Horse, a strong beer contains 6.9% alcohol.

And then I found they are so so nice, like the typical Filipino which always brings smile, and I opened myself, even talking about my salary and if I’m ready for marriage…

Food sharing is also a good way to make a happy atmosphere, especially for food-hunter Filipino!

Showing caring is important as well, since one of uncles needed to drive and pick another uncles’ family up there and he had drunk some beer and whisky with us, that’s why I worried if he could drive properly as I also have driving license as well and I could accompany he to go so there’s someone to support. And to tell aunt “last cigarette”, and uncle “dont drink too much”.

Of course there are so many ways to have a good start with his family, just bear in mind that to use my own mind and soul to communicate with them, not a fake smile could build up relationship. 

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{relationship} How do I deal with long distance relationship

I have been in LDR for a year, and so comfortable with him (He feels the same too!), so I think I could share some my experience to whom are in LDR as well.

#1- Clear mindset. Before you are in LDR, pls understand your partner can’t be anytime and anywhere you want. Don’t expect he/she will hug you when you are down, otherwise you guys will argue a lot.

#2- Communicating pattetn. We usually have video chat once a week, and five ‘Good morning’ msg on weekday to start our work. For weekend, we might just shut up or only for something essential to say, just like a personal free time. Also it’s important to tell him why you are mad at him, communication time is so valuable to us, can’t be wasted!

#3- Meet up in every 3-4 months.

#4- Learn the language. My partner is a Filipino, so I’m learning Tagalog, just a way to understand his world, and to make use my free time.

#5- Surprise. I sent him postcard when I was in Singapore, and sent him a parcel which I ordered from Selfridges to kill his pimple scar (But actualy it’s no longer a surprise because he got a SMS that a DHL parcel is coming and he’s scared because he didn’t order anything online haha! And then he asked me… It’s a funny memory tho).

Tomorrow I’m gonna catch the flight ticket for November, see the date, it’s just for a night!!! I never try to take a flight just for that short trip… But what to do? He is much important. I hope we could meet again in X’mas so I won’t cry like a dog… Wish me luck (Finger-crossed!)
Me: Gemini-Cancer

He: Gemini
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{relationship} 1-year anniversary

Dear Alien,
I remember the night we met on the plane last year, we had a great and non-stop conversation for 4 hours, we both got red eyes after landed.

I remember the night we chatted on phone, talking about the attitude after knowing my sister smoke, I told you she is well educated and should know the harm, but you told me it’s her choice.

I remember the night I phoned you for 4 times but you didn’t pick up, and finally you blocked me on Facebook, I was hurted, deeply.

I remember the night I sent an email to you to ask for being friend again and you said OK then I was glad to keep the connection.

I remember the night I took a flight after work and met you in the airport, you holded my hand, and I’m yours. 
Yes we are in a long distance relationship.

Yes we may not be able to be upload our sweet selfie and have tight hug frequently, but we could always make each other 101% fully charged to start our day and fighting on our work.
Tomorrow will be our 1-year birthday, we are looking forward to seeing this baby grow up. You may afriad of you become a grandpa who has bad temper, memory, and with wrinkles on face, but I cannot find anyone who can replace you, my best gift in life.

I know we might have much challenge than others, but I am confidence to tackle one by one because you are with me and I’m with you. 
Love,

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SQ225, from Singapore to Perth. 

The monitor told me to wait, at that time I wasn’t aware I would meet my important boy soon…

{relationship} daddy

I’m getting closer with dad when I was studying in the university, maybe at that moment I found dad is getting older and I should spend more time with him, to make happier moment with each other so to prevent I will be regret.

He is a traditional dad, which means doesn’t express himself much to us, but his hard-work provides my family a good shelter, until now, he cooks and does some housework for us haha! Mom could be lazy a bit when dad is retired, and I’m so proud of him having a good health and strong vitality as he’s tuning 70 year-old tomorrow! I bet you guys will think he’s just 60 while meeting him!

Every year I will go travelling with dad once, so he could be able to explore the places other than stuck in HK (We have been to Taipei, Seoul, Bangkok, Singapore, Beijing and Shanghai. Time to think about the place outside Asia haha!).

Besides travelling, I will bring him to have different nice restaurants wherever it’s McDonald or some mid-level pricing western restaurants in HK!

And of course, my tone when talking to him becomes a little girl somehow (just imagine when you were talking to your boyfriend). As a little girl, I always share with him fruit secretly because I dislike fruit but mom forces me to eat a bowl of fruit every single day!

Last but not the least, happy birthday daddy! Wish you have a good health and stay with us forever 🙂

 

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